After 13 years of homeschooling we had a situation occur that totally blew me away. My two sons were playing with the little boy behind us. We have never had any negative comments about homeschooling and so I had not trained my little ones how to respond should someone challenge their right.
I happened to be at a homeschooling meeting when a neighbor asked my children if they were homeschooled. They responded yes and continued to play. This neighbor went into her house and began pulling out books and making my children read a loud to her. As they stumbled in their nervousness she then started drilling them with math facts. In shock and disbelief they did not respond well. She then began to tell them that they should tell their mama that they want to go to school.
My son looked completely confused as he shared this with me. “Why would I want to go to school? Is that what it’s like?” We had a wonderful conversation about how to respond should anything like this ever happen again. Lesson learned…. ALWAYS prepare your children for all situations.
You must begin with the end in mind. Why? If you don’t know where you’re going you will not know how to get there. My dad and brothers are hunters. They are amazing with a bow and arrow. I would watch them practice over and over again as they would aim for the target. At first, the arrow would go off course and the more they practiced the more accurate their aim would become.
Isn’t this the same with our children? They are our arrows and if we don’t have a target we are aiming for we can get lost in a sea of busyness with nothing to show for it.
How do I begin with the end in mind? I set my foundational goals. These goals are unshakeable and immoveable. They are our families worldview, our philosophy of education, our deep moral compass. Once I understand these things and officially put that on paper I now have a workable goal sheet.
When a new opportunity comes into our life I can hold it up to those foundational goals and see how it lines up. Is it moving us towards our world view or perhaps the better question would be, is it moving us AWAY from our worldview?
Paint the picture of where you want to see your children in 10-20 years and then jump in with both feet and live your life!